• Antony Alex Irungu

Who Are You? Knowing and Understanding Yourself Better.

Unless you clearly know and understand yourself first, you cannot understand others and neither can you understand where you are heading.

Ever been in a heated argument and the opponent yelled at you, “by the way, who are you? Who do you think you are?” Have you ever sat down and reflected on those insulting words and asked yourself, “who am I?” This question should trigger a solo journey to define yourself in terms of self-identity or self-concept which is the recognition of your potential and personality. In their book, Handbook of Self and Identity, Professors Mark R. Leary and June Price Tangney write that human beings have the unique capability to fully understand their thoughts, emotions, and behaviors by thinking and acting on them. Developing your self-identity requires self-awareness; understanding your own feelings, desires, motives, character, potential, strengths, and weaknesses.

In her article, What Self-Awareness Really Is (and How to Cultivate It), organizational psychologist, researcher, and author, Tasha Eurich, writes that there are two types of self-awareness; internal self-awareness which represents how we see ourselves in terms of our thoughts, feelings, behaviors, aspirations, and values and external self-awareness; an understanding of how other people see us.

Want to know who you are? You can use the following tools.

Personality Test: Click on the link to access the Myers–Briggs Type Indicator to identify your personality type from the 16 distinctive personality types.

SWOT Analysis: This is an honest look at your strengths, weaknesses, opportunities, and threats. While strengths and weaknesses are internal (within your control) opportunities and threats are external (outside your control). Create a table and list down all your strengths (what you can do better than others and makes you to standout from the crowd), weaknesses (what you aren’t good at and stands in your way to becoming who you want to be), opportunities ( chances you can explore and benefit from them), and threats (possible obstacles out there likely to derail your dreams).



Eurich, T. (2018, January 4). What Self-Awareness Really Is (and How to Cultivate It). Retrieved May 4, 2020, from Harvard Business Review:

Krogerus, M., & Tschappeler, R. (2017). The Decision Book: 50 Models for Strategic Thinking. New York, NY, USA: W. W. Norton & Company Inc.

Leary, M. R., & Tangney, J. P. (2012). Handbook of Self and Identity (2nd ed.). New York, NY, USA: The Guilford Press.

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